Monday, August 01, 2005

RESPECT Begets Respect

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I was really reflecting seriously on how to convey this thought that's bothering me for quite sometime now. Then one blogger, I guess too young to think about these things but bravely articulated herself in her blog entry, triggered me to write about this too.

"Freedom of Expression", to hold no barriers in our blogging or written expression?! Indeed, we all know that we would kill the writers in us if we put restrictions in our writings. The author has the right to communicate anything he/she wants as long as he/she holds responsible for it.

We, the readers, have a lot to say too to express ourselves and articulate our reactions. But what if we are consistently being "shot down" and attacked because of our being opinionated? Do blog owners and entry authors have the right do do that to us? Well, that is his/ her own blog, own turf, own territory....

The lesson that I learned from being a victim of a troll (Appeal to Bloggers entry) is to avoid those blogs that make me feel negative about my outlook in life. I have one life to live, and I want to be happy and to make my life meaningful. I haven't got time to waste with negative people.

When they find a willing audience they won't let it go. They may have justifiable concerns but often get involved in minor matters. They blame and look for excuses. Even when blame can be justified, it serves no productive good. They are usually negative because they ceded control of their happiness to others.

Everyone has problems, but not everyone allows those problems to rule them.

One very good thing I have learned about being a special ed teacher is to RESPECT other people's opinions. Every individual has a lot to say.

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I've been a citizen of the blog world for more than one year and a half now. All this time, I've been reading and hopping from one blog to another. I have read many a different view about various events, issues and people. I have always enjoyed reading what other people actually think about certain things. I have learned a lot, too.

And, like every single blogger in the world, I also have ideas and opinions of my own. These ideas and opinions may differ from that of others, but I don't really think this makes them (my ideas and opinions) any less, in sense and value, than others. This is also what I think when I read opinions and ideas that are so different from mine. I always tell myself, "to each his own."

This also holds true in the "real" world. There will always be people who will see or view things in a way far different from one's own. It is always good to keep "to each his own" in mind. But, then again, there are people who just don't understand this or who refuse to understand this. Some people would even go as far as think that only their own opinions or views of things are important and correct; others are stupid and not worth hearing! Hay naku!

I've never really been told straight to my face that my idea or opinion is stupid, but I've seen this done to some people. This could actually cause a person to feel inferior and forever lose the confidence to express himself/herself. While I feel for these people, the kind who let others make them appear or sound stupid, I can't help but think that it's their own doing, too. Why do they allow it? It's not like it's a crime to actually have a different take on things, right? I wonder what I'd do if and when some smart, know-it-all person tries to make me look and feel stupid just because I have my own idea of things. I'd probably keep quiet, like some people I know. I'd probably try to argue my way out of "stupidity". Or I could actually break a nose bridge or two. Wahahaha!:)
READ FROM: BABYPINK'S BLOG

32 comments:

bing said...

I would like to say that Baby Pink's thoughts on this matter really got me. "To each his own" -should be a motto of the blog world emphasizing that we all have our own spaces and that nobody should have reservations about that freedom to write his/her mind, heart and soul.

Nice job, Baby Pink!

dops said...

Very well said, T-Sol.

John Clark said...

People who criticize blogs of other people should look back and reacquaint themselves of the nature of blogging. A blog is a personal undertaking. Nobody is forced to read someone else’s blog. Whether it has a scholarly or meaningless value, the blogger still reserves the right to uphold his or her beliefs. This is the essence of the Internet; absolute freedom of expression. Each one of us has to right to affirm or refute those beliefs in a civilized manner. Labeling a blogger with derogatory names is to go overboard. If we think of an opinion as a product of stupidity, present your rebuttal in a polite way otherwise just keep things to yourself. Always remember, Caveat Lector!

nikki said...

yes, we are free to express our opinions but with this freedom, let us not forget that we also have to be responsible bloggers.

LadyWhiteSpirit said...

hi teachersol pasensya na ngayon lang ako nakabisita dahil super busy na kami dito sa bahay nag aayos ng gamit dahil by end of august lipat kami sa new house namin(blessings this yr).di rin ako gaanong blog hop na dahil masaya ang summer na eto para sa'min at nagi-enjoy na din awa ni God.

agree ako sa nilalaman ng entry :)
basta importante maging masaya ka maam with ur family,at sa pagsusulat ng nasa puso mo at ganun din sa mga kaibigan.more power po :)

DarkBlak said...

since natuto akong mag internet marami na akong nakitang ganyang tao, sa mga guestbook ng differents sites, sa mga bulletin/discussion boards, sa mga chat room at ngayon dito naman sa mundo ng blogging. minsan mahirap talagang isipin na may mga taong hindi marunong gumalang ng opinyon ng iba, may mga taong ginagawa ang lahat para lang masiraan yung taong hindi nya pinapaniwalaan. Hindi na siguro mawawala yung mga klaseng tao, siguro kailangan na lang nating maging matatag kung sakali mang makasalamuha natin ang ganung klaseng tao. wag na lang tayo sigurong pumatol sa kanila.

goyong said...

Igalang nating lahat ang mga karapatan ng bawat isang maipahayag ang kanilang mga saloobin at damdamin. Ngunit pakatandaan ng mga nagpapahayag na bawat karapatan ay may kaakibat na rsponsibilidad at pananagutan. Ang mga katagang iyong nabitawan at di mo na uli mababawi kapag nabasa na kahit isa man o a thousand. Kaya ingatan makasakit damdamin ng sinuman kung gustong mong huwag kang masumbatan o ikaw naman kanilang resbakan.

Ka Uro said...

RESPECT that's a very apt word. And may I just add TOLERANCE as another guiding word.

BTW, mam your tagboard seems to be down most of the time. perhaps it will be better to switch to another one.

NvyBlu789 said...

Being that blogs are public entries, we bloggers will be vulnerable to such comments of criticism and negativity. It's part of the harsh reality of "freedom of speech", that everyone's parameters for personal expression can differ. For the most part I'm glad that tolerance and respect is exercised here! There will always be a "minority" that spoils the majority of us who seem to get along. Nevertheless, we shall keep on blogging! =)

Off Topic:
Marisol, I hope nag-injoy ka sa AC. Gusto ko rin pumunta sa AC, kung may time ako. BTW, I took off my tag-board kasi it doesn't load properly anymore. I tried several times, and it looks like you also have the same issue too. I'm gonna switch to another tag-board, and it's too bad that my Xanga tag-board doesn't work on Blogspot.

Cya in 2 wks! I'm so excited to meet you finally in person, and be able to see Washington DC again! I've already started packing some stuff into my suitcase. =)

richard said...

Freedom of expression... that's it...

Yes I already learned this from my previous blog... I once become a BAD blogger without thinking the consequences...
I love what is the real essence of blogging... to learn, be learn, have learn, etc...

Major Tom said...

There is just one huge problem in the internet, it is so easy to make such a fool of oneself, and the anonimity it gives is really hard to unkey, that anyone with lurid minds can just go around and disturb some others by unkind remarks and activities.

I hope there is some movement that campaigns against malicious and unscrupulous web users. In fact, I once read in an international newsletter, that YAHOO and Microsoft are trying to perfect a system where everyone using Yahoo emails could be detected with certainty, and anonimity would be lessen. They admit that its a very hard to formulate such system, but they are trying their best. One day, they aim to eradicate every malicious use of the internet, and internet protocols like websites and blogs, and mails could only be issued when one is a "real person" and not a spammer or a troll. If that day comes, they our problem on these spammers would soon be over.

BabyPink said...

it looks like halos lahat naman tayo ay nag-aagree sa "to each his own" at respetuhan. sadly, mayroon lang din talagang iba na medyo hindi ito matanggap o ayaw itong tanggapin. hay!

salamat, teacher sol!:)

Air Milikay said...

sino na kaaway mo ngayon? dami ba uma alaska sa yo !!

masyado ka na siguro popular e (wink)

TEACHER SOL said...

BING, I agree with you. By the way, I am so glad that your procedures are systematic as a Core Group Members of Pinoy Teachers Network. I am so glad you're one of us. Thanks Bing.

DOPS, "batu-bato sa langit, ang tamaan wag magalit"...

TEACHER SOL said...

JOHN CLARK, you said it very well too. RESPECT is the word. "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all"...a very restrictive and dictatorial proverb, but would lessen friction in the blogosphere.

NIKKI, right. I wish everyone would adhere to this.

TEACHER SOL said...

LWS, oks lang, girl, pareho tayong super busy. Nahihiya nga ako sa mga commenters at readers ko dito dahil less talaga ang time ko for blog hopping, pero andidito pa rin sila at sumusuporta sakin. Happiness is the ultimate goal of every human being di ba? Nakalimutan ko na kung kaninong philosopher galing yan eh, pinag-aralan namin yan sa Soc. Sci> noong college.

DARKBLAK, tama yan. Ang umiinit ang ulo ko, doon sa mga taong may kabastusan ang mga iniiwang trail sa tag board (instead na link sa blog nila), mabuti nalang may DELETE sa tagboard at comment box, yan ang katapat nila sa akin, hehe.

TEACHER SOL said...

GOYONG, mahirap yung may kaaway, o inaaway ka. Masakit sa ulo yan eh, di ka makakatulogng mahimbing sa kakaisip kung anong strategy na ang ginagawa ng umaaway sayo. Hay naku. Ang mahirap sa blogosphere kasi, para na ring "frat war" ang nangyayari kung kampi-kampi yan. Iwasan nalang natin talaga, kung PEACE OF MIND ang mas importante sa atin. Wag na nating idamay ang sarili natin sa mga useless na away. Hayaan na natin ang ibang tao dyan.

KA URO, 2 days na nga na down ang tag board ko eh, an bagal ng loading nitong blog ko. Gusto ko sanang magpalit nga kaya lang wala akong time. Tulad ngayon, gumising ako ng maaga para lang makita ko mga comments ninyo dito. After this, maliligo na ako at go na naman sa training. Kakain ako ng almusal habang naglalakad papunta sa train station. Routine ko yan ngayon. HAY NAKU!

TEACHER SOL said...

NAVYBLU789 (LIZ), yep, I'll see you in two weeks. I had a great weekend in Atlantic City, ganda ng boardwalk nila, you should go there. Enjoy ang daughter ko sa arcade nila kasi parati sya nananalo, hehe, tapos nakita ng dalawang babaeng hispanics na matanda, ibinigay na sa kanya lahat ng tickets nila kasi naglilibang lang daw sila at wala daw silang anak. Tuwang-tuwa ang baby ko. I also won sa "main thing" na-doble ang 200 bucks ko. Gulat si hubby kasi wala pa akong 30 minutes doon :D Hay, ayan I am back to reality now. Puros training na naman. But can't wait to personally meet you, girl!

RICHARD, hello! Buti naman di ka na pasilip-silip lang dito sa blog ko ha, hehe. Di na natin sasabihin sa kanila kung sino ka. Ang mahalaga you're back blogging away and you're blogging responsibly now. Di ba? Just tell us what you think, blog and blog hop. Ang importante dumadami ang friends mo sa blogosphere, at hindi kaaway *wink*

TEACHER SOL said...

MAJOR TOM, I am sooo glad you are backin circulation. Just keep on blogging, at wag na nating pansinin ang troll na yan. I know you were a victim too and it had a great impact on you and your readers. But the most important thing now is that there are people who are civilized enough to think that it's easy to be trolled in the internet. The anonymosity is also an issue. My tracker has been getting a lot of anonymous visitors to my blog especially yesterday & last night when I had this entry as my latest.

BABYPINK, ewan ko kung ang pinatutungkulan ng entry mo ay sya din sa entry ko, pareho ba? Anyway, ang importante, this entry applies to life in general, not only to the blogosphere. Para sa akin, "respect one's opinion", and/or "avoid negative people". Yan nalang ang ginagawa ko para may peace of mind ako, tapos blog pa rin, tuloy ang ligaya...

AIR MILIKAY, wala naman akong kaaway, ang daming nag private email sakin dito tinatanong nga yan, hehe. Busy lang kaya di maka blog hop. Pero itong entry ko, na seryoso ba ang dating, reaction ito sa mga napapansin ko sa mga pangyayari sa blogosphere, na may mga ibang bloggers din na nakakapuna pala. At ayaw ko maging popular na tinagurian ha, nakakatakot yan...tama na sa akin na makilala akong "Teacher Sol, the friendly blogger", haha.

Ronald Allan said...

I would like to add something. While the freedom of expression is truly inherent in blogging, we should exercise freedom responsibly. Not only with regard to the entries we post, but also with the comments we make on other people's blogs.

People are all different, we cannot expect to know how everyone will react to a given post/comment. Some will react positive to it, some bad. That's to be expected. But whether we agree or disagree regarding any particular thing, our respect for one another should not waiver.

We are all free to believe in different things. And belief in different things does not make these beliefs any less valuable or important...just different.

Once we truly realize and understand this...the blogosphere would be a whole better place to be in. :-)

I guess that's the key word. RESPECT.

Cheers Teach! and cheers to Baby Pink for speaking out on this matter. :-)

TEACHER SOL said...

RONALLAN, "I guess that's the key word. RESPECT." Oo nga eh, ok lang ang arguments and rebuttals and discussions, pero sana in a civilized manner para maayos naman. At di na nga siguro maiiwasan na may mag-iiwan ng mga nakakaasar na "bleep" sa tagboard mo. DELETE nalang yan. Wala tayong control sa blogosphere pero I believe naman as educated and civilized bloggers may control tayo sa sarili natin, hane?

Duke said...

hi teacher sol-- your title says it all! amen to that.

isabela said...

Hi Sol, mahaba ito pasensiya ka na.
Can anybody explain kung ano ang ibig sabihin ng web log? Sa pagkakaintindi ko (pls. correct me if I’m wrong), it is an on line journal, akin to a diary? Aren’t diaries very personal ventures? You expose yourselves in your diaries, no holds barred. It is all about your OWN opinions. You DO NOT NEED other people agreeing or disagreeing with you, right? Pag may diary ka ba, ipababasa mo sa ibang tao ang mga enties, tapos tatanungin mo kung okey sa kanya yung sinulat mo sa SARILI mong diary? OF COURSE NOT? ANONG PAKIALAM NIYA? Nagkataon lang na naka-expose ‘yan for others to read. But they have a choice – to read or not to read? It is only a ONE CLICK decision.
‘Yun namang mga nagbabasa, problema na ninyo kung tinamaan man kayo ng isang opinionated blogger. Hello? Reality check lang po. PASALAMAT nga kayo, kahi’t masagwa ang mga comments nyo, naka-displey pa rin for others to read. O, kaya pinagtya-tiyagaan kayong sagutin. Sa totoo lang diary NIYA ‘yon. So anong ginagawa ng walang respeto mong ten cents worth sa diary niya? Tapos aalimurain mo pa ang SARILI niyang opinion sa SARILING DIARY NIYA? Hindi ito dyaryo, anoh!! Wag nyong dagdagan ng O sa huli ang diary. Baka nangangarap kayo? Sino ba ang may sabing JOURNALISTS ANG MGA BLOGGERS kaya may resposibility sa sensiblities ng readers?? Reality check again – ON LINE JOURNALS hindi COLUMN !! Dapat CLOGGER kayo hindi blogger. Stop dreaming, no!! Sa dyaryo nga hindi obligasyon ng editor na i-publish ang mga komentaryo ng readers, lalo na kapag anonymous. Deretso sa basurahan ‘yan!! May tawag ang mga dyarista sa mga anonymous. Duwag. Kasi daldal ng daldal sabay tago nang tago.

TEACHER SOL said...

DUKE, hello! alam mo naman ako, araw-araw na minumura sa classroom, kaya dead ma na sa mga ganyan. Nakakaasar nga lang yung mga walang pakundangan, "hay naku!" nalang.

ISABELA, ang puso...bata pa tayo ha...at ang wrinkles mo ingatang dumami yan! :D Maganda sana magrespetuhan na nga lang yung mga mambabasa at mga bloggers, wag naman sana magbastusan. Turn off yun talaga eh. Minsan kasi nag-iiwan pa ng message sa tag board pag di nya type ang blog eh, pang-asar lang ba. On the other hand, may mya ANONYMOUS commenters naman ako na mga parang anghel kung mag-iwan ng comment sa akin, mas maganda pa ang mga inspiring words kesa sa akin. Pinangangalagaan lang talaga nila ang identity kaya ayaw magpakilalala. Ok yung ganon di ba, kahit na ilang beses pa silang mag-iwan ng comments welcome sila. Yung ANONYMITY sa tracker, di ma-detect ng tracker ang pinanggagalingang source URL, isang issue yan sa cyberspace eh. Mahirap ma-trace nga pag ganyan lalo na kung nakakaasar pa ang comments! Hay naku!

Anonymous said...

Teachersol, baka naman masmabuting gamitin yung Wordpress. Merong anti-spam plugins plus pwede mong ma prevent yung posts nang trolls.

Go see lashawnbarber.com's page and look for the about page (I think that's where it is). She explains that it's her blog and she gets to block people who deserve it.

Blogging is great but bloggers should be responsible also. You need to be careful about how personal you get if you don't want people to find you in RL. I came across another teacher's blog and she complained that her students found her blog and read it all. Well, she posted her name on the blog and the kids went looking.

Plus, if a blogger posts opinions they better be prepared to defend them or learn to deal with disagreements politely. I've come across blogs that really spout all kinds of stuff that's unpleasant to read. Then they complain about the complaining...nako!

Phisch
inthatnumber.com

Air Milikay said...

check this out this is very interesting

How to find an ISP for a specific IP address... which will trace the hackers ISP when you investigate an IP address. ... Then hit submit and the whois tool will trace the IP address to the owning ISP. ...
www.infohq.com/Computer/Spam/ finding-hackers-isp-using-ip-address.htm - 23k - Cached - Similar pages

Lookup Details

IP Address Country Flag County / State / Province City ISO Country Code Country ISP
69.143.200.248 WASHINGTON DC WASHINGTON US UNITED STATES COMCAST CABLE COMMUNICATIONS INC

http://www.formyip.com/

then type the suspected isp and voila it will say like the one above

Air Milikay said...

on same topic:

http://www.formyip.com/ipcountry.php

okey, say someone is leaving you nasty comments, or spamming you or simply annoying or bothering you, if you can get the isp from tag you type in the isp and this address will trace the isp, what city and country it's comming from

so you will have an idea who is the agitator or that piece of crap

kenji said...

I am not a polished writer and I have this "idea" I am excited to share in my blog. I make sure, checking my words and grammar knowing my lack in technical writing.

Alas! I am contented and as many of us do, was hoping for a nice response from readers. My best post so far, my life, my experience! It was worth it!

Then the critic came with harsh words, pointing my stupid mistakes. He is right, I missed that one... but why such angry words? Too busy to find mistakes, he failed to read ... my happy thoughts.

bw said...

Blogs allow us to voice our opinions and in some instances rather passionately. My take on this is as long as we are beating on an issue and not dissing on other bloggers I believe we are to a large extent able to unleash our frustrations that will relieve our tensions. Oftentimes a person begs to be heard and the blog is an excellent forum. This is an imporant value of the blog, for me at least.

TEACHER SOL said...

PHISCH, thanks for this, I will check on it during the weekend. I'm really glad there are people who go out of their way like you to help...

AIR MILIKAY, good idea! I will check this too over the weekend, am still on training now (again, hay!). This is sooo interesting, hackers can't hide anymore? Why aren't hackers using this against each other (to track each other ba...)

KENJI, don't be bothered by that commenter anymore, did you learn a good deal with his/ her suggestions too? Look at the positive side nalang. Also, don't take them seriously, keep writing & keep blogging. What really matters is that you are expressing yourself in a productive & harmless way di ba? Blog away!

John Clark said...

Teacher Sol, some of tips suggested on this blog are not entirely correct (i.e. IP location). I feel that it is my responsibility as an IT professional and former educator to correct it. So I've decided to blog about it today.

Air Milikay said...

off topic: i posted this at john clarks site:

"too techie there, but as i read your post, i didn't get any knowledge on how to trace an ip which this site could http://www.formyip.com/ipcountry.php.

sometimes you should explain it in layman or real people terms so we could understand

okey it was opaque but after reading your posts it is still opaque. sorry. try again but thanks."

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